I think the quote sent along this morning by Lachlan Cotter is hard to grasp without reading it in context. I’m not entirely certain what Ralph is getting at here:
“These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I will get to reading Self Reliance today, find that quote, and fully grasp the significance.
Back to the task at hand.
Lachlan asks a lot of questions! This may be the hardest prompt yet.
Is fear holding you back from living your fullest life and being truly self expressed? Put yourself in the shoes of the you who’s already lived your dream and write out the answers to the following:
Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel?
Will the blunder matter in 10 years? Or 10 weeks? Or 10 days? Or 10 minutes?
Can you be happy being anything less than who you really are?
Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.
Let’s break this down into sizable chunks because I am not connecting with it as a whole.
What is your dream?
What fear holds you back from realizing that dream?
Next, analyze the validity of the fear, so you can push through it.
I have nothing to share here. I’m living the dream! When the dream changes, when each challenge has been met, I allow another dream in.
As an example: I was approached to write my first book. What if I couldn’t do it? What if it sucked? What if the world hated it? What if it left me empty? (There’s the fear, it didn’t stop me.)
Then I was asked to do a radio interview. What if I stuttered? What if the world didn’t consider me as an expert? What if I was challenged on my views? (There’s the fear, it didn’t stop me.)
This isn’t all about people and their reaction to me. There have been other challenges, dreams, fears.
Life is worth living – not shaking in fear.
I think this face your fear mentality stems from a rough childhood. I was raised in fear. When I left at 14 I’d had enough of it.
Although fear does not hold me back from living my dream(s), fear is still present inside me. I am fearful of physical pain and personal disability (I have never broken a bone and choose not to experience that by my own recklessness).
I have faced that fear when weighed against the dream. The dream – to support my husband’s need to build a house after a fire – required my body on shaky scaffolding and ladders many times. I did it, sometimes for hours at a time, but did not overcome the fear of heights in less than safe conditions.
“Now do. The thing. You fear.”